I’ve learned a lot this summer. And what I’ve mostly learned is that I am resilient.
While I won’t go into too many gory personal details, at the very start of the summer my husband left me, in a surprise and secretive way, just before his two step-children graduated from high school and college. It was a huge blow to my self-esteem and my lifestyle.
I backed away from my coaching as I thought to myself, “Who wants a life coach that can’t even keep a husband?”
As the summer progressed I got a few more hits: My husband filed for spousal support, stole all our cars, and called the police and had me cited for disturbing the peace when I tried to retrieve one to use. My beloved 14 year old dog had to be put down, both of my children have moved across the country, I developed a kidney stone that just seems to want to hang around and, I’ve even been called to jury duty.
And through it all I kept thinking, “What am I supposed to be learning from this?”
And what I learned is: resilience.
Had you asked before this summer, I might have told you I thought I had it. But in the immediate aftermath of some of the summer’s developments, I wasn’t so sure.
Yet, as I look back, not only was this the worst summer of my life, it was also the best.
My friends came out of the woodwork from far and wide to support me and buck me up. My children and I got closer than I could have imagined and had more fun just being the three of us than I can ever remember. They even did a Go Fund Me behind my back to help with my legal expenses when my university wouldn’t let my summer classes go so I could earn some money. People sent me cards, books, beer, sage to burn to clear my husband’s energy out of my house and even sometimes, I’m embarrassed to admit, money. Friends called me to go walking, have a drink or go to breakfast. I took a road trip and was welcomed with open arms into friends’ homes and new friends took me in as their own. More often than not other people picked up the check for all the fun. I have never felt so loved and blessed and grateful.
I now believe that my life coaching can benefit from the wealth of kindness and adversity I’ve experienced over the last few months. With renewed vigor I would love to help you or your friends find your resilience, your support network and the creativity to keep moving on this path of life with gusto and an eye for fun. It is possible to “live lively” even in adversity and encourage the joy to grow like grass in the cracks of a broken sidewalk.
I just wanted to share this with all of you as I have been silent of late. I would love the opportunity to work with you as always, and appreciate that you share a few moments of your life with me through the blog and news letters.
Life coach, yoga teacher, writer, college professor, theatre professional, mom, used to be wife... the order of emphasis changes daily, hourly, and often, moment to moment.